Any man who has dated Asian girls
who live in the United States, has witness the wrath, jealously
and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls. I know I
have, as have many of my friends.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can't compete
against the Asians' sexuality, American women feel threaten and
some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men.
These all bear some truth.
My experience is first hand. I dated many Asian girls and have
heard the comments. If we frequent a typical American club, I
have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In
time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States.
At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen
an American lady being threaten by Asians in a typical Asian
club. It just isn't their nature. The crowd in these clubs are
usually Asian girls and American men.
There are many Asian girls in the U.S., especially from the
Philippines. A lot of these girls arrived via meeting an American
G.I. I really don't know the percentage, but there is no doubt
that most Filipina girls have a military connection in some way.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United
States with their military husband. Consequently, you'll meet
Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian
girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will
eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores
by American women. This doesn't carry the same stigma for
American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident
when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
What the American GI has discovered is now catching on with
non-military men. Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the
internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians'
sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a
sincere gentlemen for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also
captivated by the Asians' behavior towards men. A man's dream of
having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and
treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found
by American men in the Asian culture.
You'll hear American men call these values "traditional values"
because at one time these were the values that held the American
family together.
The tired argument about these women being a servant to their
husband, is one sided. Do these women like serving their husband?
Yes, most do. But not as slaves.
They are not forced to do so, but have the desire to please their
man out of appreciation and love. These girls are doing what they
want to do. I repeat, they WANT to please their man, do things
for him and show their appreciation. In turn, these men are
happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look
elsewhere for this appreciation.
It's chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in
American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another
country? I'm not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a
better life. It's probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to
marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of who you
are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the
United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies
from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian
ladies want better treatment.
In a Filipina lady's eyes, men from the West treat women better
then men from their country. Is there truth to this? The feed
back I get from the ladies at my website is yes or at least they
perceive it to be so.
I'm sure the social status of your family makes a difference of
how you are treated regardless of your gender, but I'm talking
about the average Filipina girl. The difference is simple. In her
country what she does for her man or husband is expected without
appreciation.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn't
required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for
who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn't have to be super rich or look
like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It's a
merry-go-round with respect and love as it's focal point. She
wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, she loves him
for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their
exceptions. There is no doubt, there are bad men in every
country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the
money or to get a free pass to the United States.
These are the exceptions and it is this minority that the media
and others will use to blanket a whole culture in a negative
light. I'm sure most of you have seen in print or on the news
about "mail order bride" scandals or "mail order bride"
mistreatment as if this defines all courtships and marriages that
develop through the internet.
If a few instances defines the standards, then just getting a
marriage license in the United States should have a warning
imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet
or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals
and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advise about
how to meet and marry a women is the United States ? is there any
other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines does not condone online dating sites. For that
matter, it is against the law. I'm not going to quote their law
here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!.
If the Philippines are so worried about women rights, there are
other issues they could concentrate on besides taking away a
women's right to find happiness, love and a better life for herself.
She wouldn't be looking elsewhere, if the Philippine government
took care of her needs. Should I complain? Probably not, or most
Filipina women would not be joining online dating sites to meet
American men.
My objection to this law is how it is used in the Philippines as
a political vehicle rather then sincere concern for women's
rights. Hypocrisy, it is everywhere, isn't it?
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women
despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the
discrimination doesn't stop there. It is evident in the media,
politics and indeed in their own country.
The people who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not
just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in
love and want to be together, why does the media and politician
think they know better.
More then likely, it isn't about what the couple want, but more
about politics and sensationalism to sell news. Take your hatred,
your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let
us find love ? even if we find it on the internet.
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Dao Jones
About the Author :
Dao Jones, the founder of Asian-Girls-Dating.com is connecting
Asian women to western men in a very unique and succesfull
way.
Since 2001 she is giving dating and writing tips, as well as lots
of information about the special caharcteristics of Asian
women.